As soon as I found out I was PG, I asked my mom whether she would want to know right away or later (she knew we were trying). She said, “Right away, of course!” Later, after much ecstatic screaming, she asked “Why would you think I would want you to wait?” I said I didn’t know, but seemed like most did wait until it was more of a sure thing in case of a miss. Her response? “I know, and I’ve always thought that was just stupidity.” She encouraged me to call all my relatives, some of whom have having a hard time, and “give them some joy juice.” We had a long talk about it then and I agree. JOY IS NOW! Whatever happens down the road, joy is here, real, NOW in the present moment! There is nothing like sharing this joy. If, God forbid, something terrible happens, your family will grieve with you, and support you. Meanwhile, all that grief can never erase the joy of the moment from your life – it continues to be real. However, if you delay and something happens, you will never have shared that amazing moment and there is nothing left to share but the surprise of tragedy and sorrow, or alternatively, somehow deal with it on your own. How tragic! Of course, every person has their own feelings and needs to do what’s is right for them. I for one, am glad my mom encouraged me to share. Don’t delay joy!

Having children has always been a struggle for me, it took me 4yrs and a lot of fertility shots to become pregnant with my daughter and another 3yrs and a bunch more fertility shots to become pregnant with my son. Along those years of trying, I had several heart-wrenching miscarriages. I, like many women, suffer from endometriosis, which makes it more difficult to get pregnant and sometimes, reduces your chance to have a successful pregnancy up to 30-40%. It’s a battle that I fight and that women fight every day and I continue to hope that one day, Doctors will find some other cure besides surgery.